Prayerfully Speaking

Hope from the Truths of God's Word


“Teach your kids to fight!”

These words fell out of my pastor’s mouth on Sunday and I gasped. What is he going to say next? But he had an excellent point.

Fight for your faith, your marriage, your church! That was his rally cry! (He was teaching from 1 Timothy 6: 12 – Fight the good fight for the true faith. )

Were you taught to fight? I was taught to avoid arguments and hurting people’s feelings.  I didn’t learn to fight until my mid thirties. That’s when I learned to dig my heels in and fight for a closer relationship with God. I fought to have a better marriage. I fought to have godly women as friends.

Who was I fighting? Myself for the most part. I had to fight my selfishness, my pride, my critical spirit, my negative thinking.

For a while all I could do was cry out “Help Me Jesus”.  And He did.  He showed me His truth.  He gave me this prayer, “Lord show me who You are to me, and who I am to You.” And He did.  I learned that He really loves me. And I learned that I was quite a sinner. Yeah, I had been fooling myself with an extra dose of pride and blindness.

I’m a different person now. I am willing to confront people and speak the truth because they are worth it. There is a fire in me to defend my faith. I am amazed at the fire in me to defend my marriage. And I will defend my church.

  • Are you fighting?
  • Who are you fighting?
  • Have you asked Him to help you fight, to fight for you in your weaknesses.
  • Will you model fighting for the right things to your children and friends?

His mighty power at work in you is able to accomplish more than you can ask or imagine. I’ve seen the “more” first hand. I’m living it.  Fighting takes work, it’s not pretty, and there are days it smells like your walking in your own sewage. But fight! And believe that He is your defender, your helper, the power in You to embrace change.

The sermon I mentioned is by Ted Cunningham of Woodland Hills Family Church. He’s a much better communicator than I am a blogger. Click here to listen to the sermon.

About Jennifer O. White

I’m a simple wife who has discovered God’s amazing gift of prayer. Here at Prayerfully Speaking I share my journey of unwrapping this gift. God invites us to ask Him, but His enemy works diligently to keep that from happening. I hope to offer you encouragement to believe God is ready to pour more into your life than you’ve ever imaged.

3 Replies

  1. Thanks for the reminder! I, too was taught ‘not to rock the boat’. I’ve always been ‘quiet’, and desired to be ‘behind the scenes’, I think because of that. Deep down I had things to say, and wanted to take on leadership roles, but never felt adequate enough brave enough to take ‘it’ on. And while I had a good family, they don’t like to fight. Or confront, or be confronted. Spirited at times, yes…but show signs of pushing back and the ‘fight’ was over. Just let it alone, and get along. So the ‘fight’ was never encouraged. Oh, I would fight for what I believed in when pushed far enough, and it would shock everyone. And it would send me into a tailspin for days. But it was always worth it.
    Now as an adult,like you – it’s mostly a fight with *myself*. That stubborn pride – worrying about what other people think, the self-criticism and negative self-talk. “Why would anyone want to be friends with me? Apparently they don’t. No matter what I try, nothing works. I must smell or something. I must be too fat. Speaking of, how did I let myself get {to look} ‘this way’? Why can’t I seem to do anything about it? Why can’t I do anything ‘right’?” BLAH, BLAH, BLAH!!!
    I know the truth. I just don’t understand why I don’t understand it for myself! I need to fight for MYSELF! Which in turn, will help me be a better wife, mom, friend, Christian, daughter, sister, blogger, etc.! (I feel like I’m rambling, sorry!…)
    No really —THANK YOU, Jennifer! This word is timely! I’m so glad I came across your blog. You and Holley Gerth ( have spoken words into my life lately that are changing my life. I think God was already beginning the work in me, but has used gals like you guys to get the point across. Bless you, and know that you are heard and are an inspiration!

  2. Jennifer White

    Hi Kristi! Thank you so much for sharing your story and struggle. I want to encourage you to celebrate that His Spirit is at work in you. Have you tried speaking Who I Am in Christ (the truths of those scriptures) aloud? If you need a copy of them, I’ll be happy to send them to you. Hey – maybe I should post them on the blog!

  3. Angela Bisignano

    Some things you just have to fight for! Great thoughts and reminder Jennifer.