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Praying for Your Marriage (James Chapter 4)

Hello friend! I hope you are enjoying our journey of praying through the book of James for our marriages. Before we move on to pray through James chapter 4, here are a few thoughts to fan the flame of prayer in your heart.

God is well aware of the war raging against our marriages. The battle is His to fight and He is calling us to show up, surrender, and salute His authority. In the book of James, God teaches us how to cooperate with Him and recognize the evil schemes that lure us away from the blessings of obedience. Let’s pray our way through these verses with great expectations that God will answer in ways that will breathe life and peace into our hearts and marriages.

Father, please reveal the evil desires that are causing the conflicts between us.

What is causing the quarrels and fights among you? Don’t they come from the evil desires at war within you? James 4:1

Help us, Lord, to recognize where we are not praying about issues that are important to us.

You want what you don’t have, so you scheme and kill to get it. You are jealous of what others have, but you can’t get it, so you fight and wage war to take it away from them. Yet you don’t have what you want because you don’t ask God for it. James 4:2

focused on pleasure

Forgive me, Lord, for being so focused on my own pleasure.

And even when you ask, you don’t get it because your motives are all wrong – you want only what will give you pleasure. James 4:3

God, please help us pursue peace with You by rejecting the friendship of this world.

You adulterers! Don’t you realize that friendship with the world makes you an enemy of God. James 4:4

Thank You, Father, for giving us Your Spirit to help us become more faithful to You.

Do you think the Scriptures have no meaning? They say that God is passionate that the spirit he has place within us should be faithful to him. James 4:5

God opposes the proud

Open our eyes, Lord, to how You oppose the proud.

And he gives grace generously. As the Scriptures say, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” James 4:6

Father, crown us with humility.

So humble yourselves before God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. James 4:7

Strengthen us, Lord, to resist the devil’s discouraging, distracting, and destructive ideas.

So humble yourselves before God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. James 4:7

Lord, I want to excel at being dependent on You.

Come close to God, and God will come close to you. Wash your hands you sinners; purify your hearts, for your loyalty is divided between God and the world. James 4:8

Thank You, Father, for answering my cries for help.

Come close to God, and God will come close to you. Wash your hands you sinners; purify your hearts, for your loyalty is divided between God and the world. James 4:8

Help us, Lord, to walk away from the sinful habit of ________.

Come close to God, and God will come close to you. Wash your hands you sinners; purify your hearts, for your loyalty is divided between God and the world. James 4:8

Help us, Lord, to respond to our sin with deep regret instead of numbness or denial.

Let there be tears for what you have done. Let there be sorrow and deep grief. Let there be sadness instead of laughter, and gloom instead of joy. James 4:9

true honor

Show us, Lord, where a lack of humility is robbing us of true honor.

Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up in honor. James 4:10

Forgive us, Lord, for dishonoring each other.

Don’t speak evil against each other, dear brothers and sisters. James 4:11

Change our hearts, Lord, so that we do not criticize and judge each other.

Don’t speak evil against each other, dear brothers and sisters. If you criticize and judge each other, then you are criticizing and judging God’s law. But your job is to obey the law, not to judge whether it applies to you. James 4:11

Lord, show us where we believe that Your Word does not apply to us.

Don’t speak evil against each other, dear brothers and sisters. If you criticize and judge each other, then you are criticizing and judging God’s law. But your job is to obey the law, not to judge whether it applies to you. James 4:11

God, I agree with Your Word and declare that I have no right to act as judge in my marriage, family, church and beyond.

God alone, who gave the law, is the Judge. He alone has the power to save or to destroy. So what right do you have to judge your neighbor? James 4:12

making plans without God

Forgive us, Lord, for making plans for our lives without considering Your purpose and plan.

Look here, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we are going to a certain town and will stay there a year. We will do business there and make a profit.” How do you know what your life will be like tomorrow? Your life is like the morning fog—it’s here a little while, then it’s gone. James 4:13-14

Lord, strengthen our dependence on Your plan for our lives.

What you ought to say is, “If the Lord wants us to, we will live and do this or that.” Otherwise you are boasting about your own pretentious plans, and all such boasting is evil. James 4:15-16

Lord, I admit that I am struggling to do You will in this (______) area of my role as a wife.

Remember, it is sin to know what you ought to do and then not do it. James 4:17

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You can find the prayers for the previous chapters of James linked below:

James 1

James 2

James 3

About Jennifer O. White

I'm a simple wife who has discovered God's amazing gift of prayer. Here at Prayerfully Speaking I share my journey of unwrapping this gift. God invites us to ask Him, but His enemy works diligently to keep that from happening. I hope to offer you encouragement to believe God is ready to pour more into your life than you've ever imaged.